Mangoes, Coffee & Complicated Bonds

Some ties are habits, some are love — the trick is knowing which one you’re sipping.

Often we end up making quick connections with people and carry them for the sake of not being the bad person to break it.

What connects people is the basic human desire of connections and finding commonality. But what separates us is our nature.

But as we know our brain has conscious and unconscious states, where the unconscious state forms habits, patterns and repetitions.

One thing to note is how do we separate a connection we made with other humans from a bond vs a habit vs a real bond with some depth in it ? The response might defer on the things we think about it, if we think about it while being active in that relation or as they say ‘during the honeymoon phase’ could be very different from, a response after a hiccup.

Aristotle says a habit is the path of least resistance. Something we do because it’s convenient, more so because not doing it is extremely inconvenient.

A real bond would be where the bond is there to have the bond and not whether it’s convenient or not, for loving and accepting them for their goods while also accepting that they are humans with obvious flaws.

As for me, I have a habit of having my coffee in the morning.

While I love eating mangoes, even though I know I need to peel it and at times the seed is bigger in size than the pulp in it.