The Mom You Post vs. The Mom You Know
On Mother’s Day, we don't just post pictures — we post projections.
On the recent mother’s day I saw people posting lovely photos with their mothers. Thanks to these ‘days’ that people have found more ways to be grateful and recognise the most important people and events in their lives.
I saw someone gardening with their mother, someone holding a video game controller with their mother and someone showing their mother riding a motor bike.
These are the people I know. I know their day to day and what kind of life they like.
One thing that came out strongly was that all of them posted a photo of the mother they like to imagine in their head. The friend who posted the photo of their mom with a cow is an animal rescuer himself (his mom is not) and he liked that version of his mom, for whatever brief period of time.
That made me think, was the post a desire to show that he wants more of that mother or a post in gratefulness for that brief moment?
What else the person might have posted ? Now if he chose to post something that his mom truely loved (could be anything) that would reinforce her belief and made him look like he agrees to it to his mom. But thats not what he wants.
Posting photos is clearly a way of communication in itself. Next time we post, if we think why are we posting it and for whom, it ll tell you a lot about yourself.
“We all become curators of memory on social media — some just add better filters.”
— Anonymous (or maybe me, after coffee)
Watch this interesting video on thinking